The first thing to realize is that at her age she does not have the ability to postpone or plan when to eliminate so having her in the right place (crate) at the right time is accidental. The best plan is to have her in the crate as much as possible probably at least 20 min out of each hour. There is no easy way to get around the whining except for having her in another room where she does not see you and you do not hear her easily. She needs to have access only to the crate for about 7-10days and then access to the pad on a tray, using the tray first will not work as you have seen. You cannot expect for her to make much progress until around 12 weeks of age as this is when she begins to get the ability to postpone elimination until she is in the right place. Patience and consistency now will let her know what the expected plan is and she will make progress soon. She can stay in her crate for around 4 hours without your interruption. Be sure to watch all the homecoming videos and the potty training series.